I'm reading "Loving your Child is Not Enough". I'm reviewing each chapter as I go along and sharing with you -partially coz it might be of interest and partially so that I retain some of it.
I love the title of this chapter -do we even need another chapter? I really love that there are more chapters as I think there has to be more to it than getting though the days. Daily battles can be all consuming in our house at times so I like that it was tackled first. This chapter talks through multiple conversations and situations and it is really easy to see how our own daily battles mirror those in other houses -I felt a little more normal immediately. The following subtopics are covered in some detail:
- Which battles are worth fighting?
- When it isn't negotiable
- Consequences
- What can I do to get my kid to listen?
- Fight starters
- Choices
- Letting the child solve the problem
- Defusers
Loving Your Child is not Enough: Positive Discipline That Works
Nancy Samalin with Martha Moraghan Jablow (1987)
I borrowed an older edition of this book from my local LLL library (sincere apologies if you were looking for it while I had it longer than expected). I don't tend to read a lot of books as time is limited between work, 4 kids and my facebook addiction. I enjoy reading but I'm selective about what I read. I'm careful to form my own perspective on things as I'm well aware that some books are utter tripe and could have me looking at things from an unhelpful perspective. For example if I read Gina Ford books I'd surely be thinking I'm lacking routine and structure and a terrible mother. I might find myself trying to improve that and it's something that hasn't been a problem for us. We are baby led and I think that's best for my children, my own sanity and possibly coz it's just easier.
